The first was a rastafarian who claimed he could not cut hair like he used to, and planned to get an hvac license, $300 perge 30 days. For young fathers who are struggling with finishing school or entering a new job, being ordered to pay child support until the child becomes an adult is challenging, even if the amount is minimal. Aso for child support it is nothing more than stealth alimony that is why the awards are so high. She had her permit suspended for oweing a few months when we were paying it all on time until my injury. Yes i had to get a lawyer, were in process of appeals, 2nd what do you think about the 277,000 home?? So what should we do about the mothers who dont want to succeed in life and live of child support. A woman can do anything a man can do, right? After there youngest turns 5 they should should be required to work part-time . SInce the family of 6 receives so much state aid, I am now being taken back to court to pay twice the original agreed upon amount, even though in front of the Agency lawyer and judge the mother says she does not need me to pay more to support her other children. The idea of stereotyping ALL fathers as deadbeats was a deliberate ploy to make the fathers the debtors, and the denigrating term was widely used. Whenever Dad makes more $, he gets taken back to court to pay more $. Well after reading through these posts I see Im not the only one!!!! But they dont care. Denying visitation is a contempt of court/warrent issued punishable offense. This is called kidnapping, and it often goes by another name: courtnapping. Her mom doesnt pay me any child support, never has. The children should solely be with mom for consistency and stability. My boyfriends kids have lived with us for 2 years now and he is still paying child support for them. "So, be politely persistent. Sorry youve been done so wrong that your mind has been clouded. MUCH simpler system to deal with than the politics of the North. Aurora; I completely agree with you. You make a lot of sense bro this system gotta go away before they take more father rights away systematically. Children need to bond to one parent when they are growing up. Yes sir Im your story is like mine drives me insane. Some how the lord works in mysterious ways, I have still been able to be there for kids, two jobs and steady plasma donation. Their work schedule; for example, if the breadwinner is on the road a lot, this can impact child custody. After the deductions come out of my check (60%) and I pay my bills I am left with $360 a month for gas, groceries, and entertainment for the kids. Beging close minded and one sided is what is wrong with the system. If I was still with the woman, and I was laid off for a period of time, would she, being in the same house with me, be punishing me for not having a job by billing me thousands of dollars more? I know what my kid likes because I spend quality time with him when I can and i expose him to numerous activities to broaden his horizons. BTW my ex comes from a very wealthy family. It doesnt take a genius to figure out that this is a big scam. Thank you just my opinion as a single mom of what are now adult children I raised! Your wages will be garnished out of your check and sent directly to the child support office so the child support office can get their matching federal dollars which is a huge multi-billion-dollar industry for these states it is sad and corruption and its very worse taking children away from their fathers so the state the attorneys the judges can all make money off this deal sickening is what it is. Tags:alienation, Divorce laws, finances, income, Parental rights, unemployment. I saw first hand how the court system simply does not care about anything you have to say in regards to your parenting rights being taken from mom without any valid reason it is truly sad but Im hopeful things are gonna change. In one well-publicized case, a father in Michigan objected to child support payments when his ex-partner gave birth after knowing he did not want children. I agree 100% ive been dealing with this for years snd they recently quadrupled it! Hes tried to run over my kids and myself more than once. The man I was living with lived a double life. My baby mama was trying to get me to pay 80% of daycare and only give me visitations. So mother gets custodydad paysand the states gets a kickback from the feds. As a woman, it is silly to not be able to raise my children without child support. Absolutely right.. I too live in Illinois, and Ive had custody of my son and daughter since 2004. The family would adjust for that period. My family is 600 miles away and they have not seen them in two years. If 50/50 works, its whats best for the kid, but Right. Its totally free to join, and the federal court relief being demanded includes the full restoral of my child custody rights under law, plus a nice share of the large amount in civil damages expected. Thats what I signed up for when I had a kid. I got them because of their mother crazy action. Why keep a parent paying when no relationship exist . 176K views 12 years ago FOX 25 Boston News - http://www.myfoxboston.com - Just hearing the words child support sparks an emotional response. amen to that. We are being unfairly treated.. Im a contractor and had my exs lawyer trying to use my wages before deductions for the child support calculation As in before all the materials,fuel, and subcontractors I had paid out of it for the year. How can a person afford to improve himself when he can hardly afford to support himself? If he wants to give me all the burden of child rearing AND 90% of the expenses, then he and every parent like him (male or female) can suffer the consequences. Its the equivalent of putting a bandage on a bullet wound, half of the parents who receive, puts the other parent in such poverty. Plus, by his time, the kids didnt want to leave a household where they could do just about whatever they want, and come live in a household where there would be rules and consequences. To add further insult to injury. Im blessed that he is the father of my children. Martin and Mandella were jailed for being right. Yes! Thats half my take home too! My boyfriend of 5 years has a child that was a result of a one night stand. My son is with me 3 months a year. And just because he doesnt give me anything I dont throw fits, Im actually happy that at least he trys to get involved in my kids life. The entire financial system, DCSS, and the corrupt IRS needs a complete overhaul or they should get the fight club treatment (see end of movie). Its time to demand the following: Fathers' rights advocate, Elliot Schlissel, explains New York fathers' rights concerning child custody, visitation and orders of . Each parent will do the best they can with what they have. Come join Texans For Parental Equality on our facebook page. Introducing the Unfairness of Child Support for Fathers: A Closer Look Child support is an issue that has been under the microscope for decades. She tries to make my visitation as hard as possible and lies to my daughter every chance she gets. Perhaps you should explore real parenting and relationship building instead of complaining about unfair laws that dont exist. They are taught that any form of punishment is child abuse of some form, and that they can forever blame their short-comings in life upon their childhood, shrowded with falsehoods and depictions of even the most blatent displays of affectionate parenting as some form of neglect or abuse, tainting their entire upbringing, that could have been fairly peaceful and normal had the number one focus been on raising the children to the best of our ability as co-parents. Ohohohoho. I can barely pay my rent at $600/month for the 2 bdrm Im required to have to continue my visitation schedule. My bf is an amazing dad and from day one tried his best to be an active parent. It not my choice to have every visitation center say sorry your an abuser we will not supervise Dads everywhere are getting screwed over and treated badly! Both parents have a legal duty to support their child based on their ability to provide that support. I know many women will not agree with what I have to say, but its what I think. Sounds like a great plan, right? People have no idea how many mothers also lose custody and end up paying child support they cant afford. Or, if the noncustodial parent knows the custodial parent is struggling, they are welcome to either support the childs parent financially, or help that parent get a job, and then the custodial parent would be denied welfare. The child suppprt office in South Bend, Indiana has been rude, and steretypical in being pro-woman, anti man. Regardless of whether you live in Manhattan or Nassau, Suffolk, Queens, Westchester or Brooklyn counties, New York fathers often fight an uphill battle when it comes to child custody issues. Children are ripped from their primary parents in TN, bc, well, dads deserve their 50%!! 50/50 custody does nothing to serve a child well, it screws them up.. modern day laws are completely out of touch with reality of best interest of the child standard its a joke, and as for a parent that doesnt want to pay child support, 50/50 will most likely grant it. You make wild assumption that mothers use the child support for the kid and daycare It is often not the case, even my own mom (a good mom) still used the system to throw my dad in jail for missed payments in the 1985. 10 years later, she still hasnt save one dime for their college. I work hard to sustain my lifestyle and to take care of my child. So again, dont pass off your responsibility on tax paying citizens, thank you. The fact of the matter is that, SOME, women now how to play the system and only want child support to ruin the guy. We decided to open a business because 30% of his check would go to child support. No matter what the circumstances are a parent should pay child support and the child should live a life style which they have become accustomed to. Even if the man possesses ALL the means of support for the children, more often than not the children are awarded to the mothers. Friends, I just joined CAPRA as one of the lead plaintiffs in an upcoming landmark federal class action lawsuit against all 50 States and the Federal Government, because I qualify as: (1) a biological parent whose child custody was unconstitutionally removed without due process; and, (2) I have been directly impacted by that during the last four years, i.e., within the statute of limitations. It has been about 9 months and he has yet to be served with the paperwork because he has no real address. Shame on people who complain about child support. unbelievable- luckily he is back at work but the arrearage is now on his credit report which he was never made aware of. Im a good father. The system is circa 1950 male breadwinner BS and expects a percent stable economy. One was 17 at the time, another 14, and another 7. I just want my baby back. Ive always said and many women will disagree but if the father wants to give me money then so be it but if he doesnt o well. Its a different world from back then. Nearly across the board, states scored with a cumulative 1.63 grade point average (on a 4.0 scale). You get a page saying write a letter to the court before the date because apparently it helps. He tried to be as involved as he was allowed. How do we change it? Same holds true for adoption. Abolish the systematic allotment of support without enforcing Shared Parenting You should be paying like 1160 to the mom. It was the father that busted the door down and found the boy. CORDELL & CORDELL, ST. LOUIS, MO. Unfortunately, most people who work in these support collections units are operating on a political agenda and abuse their positions to achieve those ends. Often times child support is breaking the bond with fathers and their children because payments are so expensive that we fathers may not even have enough gas to visit. I have one child and is paying child support of 1375 a month. Child support also assumes the non-custodial parent doesnt spend any money on the child on their own (which we all know is nonsense in most cases). Child support dont care about anyone they have no hearts they just want to be cruel to random people. My brother in law gets less then 200 a month for twins and i pay 770 a month for one kid. these facts are not my own just do your own research if you dare. It will take a million man march to be heard or we all stop paying support for 3 months to cripples the machine , then after the 3 months we all pay up so we are not in arrears , no other way you sheep. The mother of the child filed for child support with false information and with no time sharing agreement in place, my bf got screwed. 5. My ex should be responsible 100% to support their own household. So the guy will still have to pay!!!!! Absolutely . That is like saying all white people hate black people or all Asian people know martial arts. He cant comment on your position just as you shouldnt comment on his. My ex was behind 26k, got emergency ex parte custody, and ultimately sole custody after getting a default judgement when he did not notify me of custody hearing, and used completely fabricated income ammounts, causing me to lose my house, the only home my 5 year old had ever known at the time, my job, and very worst I lost any relationship that I had with my girls, he got discretion on visitation , and the man has not allowed us to see them at all, these people are criminals with records, and I was a mail carrier. My exs tjme was always to busy with turning them against me, manipulating them to hate their own mom. Gets paid straight cash, and has since 1997. This is just my opinion but the parent who has custody usually ends up being the mean parent because on the visitation days the other parent is usually going to do something fun with them. I dont understand why we should be financially responsible for her at our house and when shes at her mothers. I just know that I did not create/produce her alone and I shouldnt have to take care of her alone. They dont go on hold because you lost your job. This includes food, health insurance, transportation to school, and one third of the utilities. Kids were not home they must have been at a friends house. HELL NO!! Fast forward to today and I get a lien on my bank account I was counting on some money that we were given as donation to use it for bills and gas but they just took it all. He drank to medicate himself and begged for a divorce. They care more about money and jailing then helping families succeed!! All she needs to do is provide information about the father to them, and direct contact with the father is unnecessary. My kids have no future now thanks to the childrens right tp choose to cause all kinds of drama and litigation when they should be focusing on school and being kids. These financial incentives also explain why states ignore 42 US Code 654(21)(a), which caps the maximum amount of interest that a state can charge on child support arrears at 6-percent. Worat thing is my son wont see most of that money, he wont have a college fund because I still have to get him clothes that fit and school supplies. You need the experience and advice of strong lawyers representing men. If India passes new law (already tabled in parliamen) then a wife can even claim property of in-laws including parental and ancestrel property of husband which is today limited to pre and post marriage property of husband only. The order also stated I was over $20,000 in debt, my passport was revoked, tax refunds began being intercepted, 40% of paycheck garnished the list goes on. Its unbelievable. I came home one early morning to surprise my family been away about 9 months. I continue to email my legislators asking them to make child support a shared responsibility instead of requiring the non-custodial parent to provide a government mandated lifestyle for the children (and by inference, the custodial parent) but the legislators are terrified of being seen as soft on deadbeat parents. The laws about child support should include some kind of work forlow for the parents that are ending up in jail (not prison) for back child support. Setting us against each other and gaining revenue in the process. I have to save for a month to be able to take them to a movie. I still dont. Pass the word.I know I am not the only one come forward. This makes the assumption that the states dont already know their laws are draconian. Just told me what I was going to pay based off what I made they didnt consider my other cases now on top of that she jumped up took my kids out of school and moved to a different city called child support and they said she can do what she want. And parental alienation is against the law despite whether or not youve paid your child support. I had my son when i was 21 years old. I am in KS and was told by multiple lawyers that if she didnt want 50/50 then the judge wasnt going to order it even though that was the direction of the legislature. Her mom just moved the new guy in and doesnt value my daughter and my relationship. But I never stop paying her child support because I wouldve had to put my kids on the stand. His answer, Marry the right person! He meant the first time Divorced loser! CS and spousal supprt etc., is considered in your overall ability or inabilitty to pay your debts off and your financial burden. Children are merely a piece of furniture to be split and distributed. To add to my frustration, the case worker told me just today that if they cannot serve him then the case will be dropped and I can reapply when I have better information on him. Her Honor (sarcasm intended ) has stated that your wife [NOT my children] deserves that money and that she is not going to allow me to become a deadbeat dad. But again, divorce employs too many people. A child does not survive on $200 a month. Most jobs dont pay that. If the shoe was on the other foot, I would have been locked up for molestation, and had my kids taken away. We could split the cost of the 4 days or better yet split the time and make it an even 50/50. She also receives almost half of my military retirement. spelling?). This blows my wife has 400k trust fund her dad pays her13 k to be in a band she has a part timing gig at weight watchers only to make 25 k a minimum here her dad did our taxes for years and he has pumped thousand of dollars over the years as gifted money. How is it fair that I foolishly got with a woman who lied about her past was intimate with me and then breaks up for me after she gets pregnant and then remarries and ironically has another child. So sad how the law works.. AMEN, this is the mos awsome thing I have heard/readI absolutely applaud, and what I was expectingnot what happened, not close by farwas awful. Ive had to fight for every cent I received from child support to include being their investigator on the fathers whereabouts, where he worked, where he lived, what he drove etc.. Ive written numerous letters to Judge Carr that fell on death ears. Read most all of these comments. Yeah me too they have taken my children and all my money. Children are stronger than we give credit to. Ive always paid. 795 a month. If the mother has no income, the state gets nothing (10% of 0 = $0). I have the kids now and have had them for three years guess who the dead beat is now, and she can afford to pay. Because the custodial parent (90% of the time being women). Also lay off the drugs. They will remember that before a child support check. How about holding the mom responsible for where the cs goes? She pulled their daughter out of school because it made her son gay. I had a daughter with my now ex wife while in the service, she decided to divorce me on my first deployment without discussing it with me before I left. In Georgia they take into account both parents incomes and calculate CS based on the cumulative needs of the child. I sat and watched a judge laugh it up all buddy-buddy with 3 dads behind on support. this is just another way to lock up black men and put them in the leagal slavery system,.. we have to pay half of support but we dont get half the time, we are expected to maintain a house so when the kid does come to visit he has a place to stay. Please see 42 US Code 654(21)(a). If a man is not working he can be daycare and daycare is added on top of child support too, at least here. Half of that is 55 a week. He has not contributed financially to her expenses in the last 3 years either. This is a huge stereotype that if a man is paying child support he must be a deadbeat. I love my son in law but dont like him. two people same problem one child them to me it becomes a two people payment problem not just one side. Whete is the one that hey no suppory bit see the other drvelopment better. you are being forced into paternity and/or an unfair child support obligation against your wishes, you are a victim of domestic violence, . And my 3 are the oldest. They did make sure to take child-support out of his unemployment though. I dont do drugs, drink, or smoke, but hell if I have a pot to piss in. Ive been going through a lot with this and the system needs to be fair. state DSHS numbers and the states are enticed with a 2-1 (every dollar they collect the feds cough up 2). So this guy told me that the money was taken due to the support I told him I was gifted that money which o have proof and he raised his voice and told me so you have responsibilities with this support case and he snapped. Now I think that there had to be something that can be done to stop this . I want to use a shared checking account like this one (http://www.mediate.com/articles/if_they_can_do_parenting_plans.cfm) that both my ex-wife and I contribute to in order to provide for my childrens needs in order to share the responsibility for providing for our childrens needs, but my family court judge wont let me. Im not the type of women that says if you dont pay Im not letting you see the kids. I cant afford a lawyer to keep going back and forth to court so I have essentially given up.
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